A re-post from March 2010:
Shake it off. Easy to say, not so easy to do. But it's key to inner peace, which is key to happiness.
So much is out of our control. So much doesn't make sense. And a lot of injustice and unfairness surrounds us. Accepting that and learning to let go, truly and deeply let go, will help you through the rough times. I speak from experience. Lots and lots of experience. My hard earned letting go skills serve me on a daily basis. And yet there are still times I fail. It's something I find must be worked on constantly and quite consciously.
Here's something to practice on a daily basis. Begin by being aware of your thought process. How many times do you allow your thoughts to be negative? How many times do you go over something you said or that was said to you and allow the pain to wrap around you? How often are you judging and feeling anger, resentment, and frustration? Start to be aware of how your thoughts are linked to the emotions you're feeling throughout your day. Self awareness is the first step.
The mind is very powerful. If you begin to rein in your thoughts when they go dark and negative, and stop them at the door, you'll also stop the rush of negative emotions. I'm not talking about creating a state of denial. But if the thoughts have no purpose other than reinforcing your feelings of being a victim, or of injustice and insanity, then why continue allowing them into your mind? Why entertain these thoughts?
Accept the negative and focus on good thoughts. Your energy will change. Your energy will strengthen you. If something CAN be done about the negative things going on in your life, it will come from being positive and concentrating on what you can control and on things that feed your soul versus things that feed your pain and anger.
"All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on."
Take some slow, deep breaths ....
Things that help when life gets tough ...
Taking time and making time to read a good book...
Faces that make me smile ...
Remembering good times like the children in a
Nepal orphanage who were so strong ....
This photo of the adorable little orphan always
makes me smile; his spirit was/is so inspiring...
I was lucky. I had a happy childhood with parents who
stayed together and loved me very much.
I'm glad for my time with wild 'pets' ....
Meditating is life-saving these days; it helps me let go.
And letting go of what I cannot change is needed
throughout each and every day. Sometimes
I get very tired of the amount
o f 'letting go' I
must do. It
change that either!
One thing I'll share here,
that is number one in my top ten of life's immediate
challenges, is that my dear, dear daughter
needs a liver transplant. She was on the list but
was removed recently because she's too sick to make
it through surgery. We're trying to get her nourished
enough and strong enough to get back on the list.
Add to that, some dark hearted souls around me
(this is the gentlest way I can put it),
who are so un-evolved and unaware.
Their actions are hurting those I love,
as well as me, yet circumstances
prevent me from stopping
I cannot change others, but I can change how I react to unjust
behavior and unfair circumstances. Attitude is a powerful tool.
The basics are key too. Getting enough sleep. Eating
the right things with a focus on getting all the
needed nutrition and not seeking
it's not the
time for deprivation either. I
make room for the occasional ice cream treat
or something special in small amounts.
It's just especially important to work
on creating and maintaining
balance at this time.
Some days are
A hot bath does wonders. And massages! Oh, wow! How I would love one
every single day! I did my first ever chair massage at Wild Oats
the other day. It was entirely impromptu. I could only
afford 15 minutes, but OMGosh ... it was so good.
I let myself get lost as the knots
It also helps to hear from family and friends. And knowing tomorrow is another day,
another chance for things to change, is helpful. I will not allow
anger to become a part of my life. It takes way too much
energy and it doesn't do any good.
I just go straight to the pain
and try working through it.
The sooner I do, the better.
It's not a cake walk, but
it keeps me moving.
I think I'm moving
One last thing, and it's a biggie, is how important my passions are in helping me push through these tough times. I indulge in one or more of my passions almost daily. For the past few months, I've been getting out most days (weather permitting) to walk and capture life through a lens. It's very soul feeding to me and I sure need a healthy soul to give me the strength to endure as my beautiful daughter struggles to live. I also need a tremendous amount of strength to accept the waves of injustice that constantly flow in my direction from a couple of seriously damaged people. (Sometimes I can go a couple days without the tears flowing.) Another passion is this website and the vehicle it is for my activism. It gives me a sense of purpose when so much around me doesn't make sense and seems to have no rhyme or reason.
I'm sending peace and acceptance out into the world today. Email me if you're going through some turbulent times and need encouragement: betsy at livehonestly dot com or if you want to send some positive thoughts my way, I would welcome that.
It may sound cliche to say that balance is key, but in my experience, the importance of finding balance in my life is central to establishing inner peace. I make time for meditation on a daily basis. I also make sure that as I wake each morning I don't allow my thoughts to land on anything negative. It's getting easier now that I've been practicing positive thinking for six or more months.
I don't look too far ahead and I don't do a lot of "what if" thinking. I stay more in the moment and try to take each day as it comes without dwelling on a theoretical future. Starting a new day free of worry and dread gives me a fresh start and the needed energy to face the things in life that demand strength and positive thinking.
Understanding that the human race is strange and on many levels "not get-able" is helpful. Letting go is something I do every single day....
I also make time for my creative outlet (photography & art) and the non profit work that feeds me, such as writing and researching for this website. It keeps my mind healthily busy and moving forward with a sense of purpose and value. It also helps me restore balance if I'm off kilter.
Life is full of things that don't make sense; things that are unfair and unjust. I can't control much, but I can, to a large extent, control how I react and how I respond to what I can't change. I do a lot of letting go to achieve that.
There's a very mean spirited person in my life who seems to feed on creating drama and pain for some of the people I love in my life. Her husband claims she's not ill intended, but rather that she's dumb and that she's simply a ... bitch. (Those are his words - not mine.) I see her as manipulative and redefining what it means to be controlling in a destructive way. She must be a very tortured, unhappy soul to need to lie and feed on the misery she causes others. She's a puppet master of the worst kind. She has some people fooled, but I'm certain many people see through her. I suspect a lot of people have someone like her in their lives.
Dealing with this person takes immense letting go. She's not worth engaging. She can't be trusted. I believe karma will come her way one day. She has woven quite a deceptive and dishonorable life. One day maybe I'll have the choice to not have her in my life, but that day is not here yet. So I let go of her evil doing and her mean ways. Or I try to. I try to let go of how unjust she has been. I focus on maintaining good thoughts, healing thoughts and pray that the universe will do what is right.
All of these techniques and thought patterns help me restore balance. I find time for nature, for laughing, for being in the company of good hearted people and staying in touch with those I love.
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